Everyone wants to be great. Everyone wants to change.
At some point in time, all of us have a dream.
We make goals for things we want, things we wish we had and things we wish we could change about ourselves, our lifestyles and our relationships.
Having spent most of my life trying to accomplish goals, make something meaningful out of myself, delving deep into habit building and trying to discover myself throughout the process of goal-solving, I’ve felt like I’ve reached a point in clarity.
The greatest attributing reason why I’ve faltered towards my goals is simple: I have too many goals.
I don’t just want to lose weight. I want to make more money, I want to travel the world. I want to cook better, code better, design better. I want to improve every single aspect of my life.
And that’s where I’ve failed.
I’ve got the drive and I’ve got the motivation. I’ve been building healthy habits for years and have seen to a certain extent, some success. But I’ve never felt satisfied because the moment I feel like I’ve established the tiniest bit of success towards one area, I realize the lack of success in the others. So I strive to be better at everything I do and it’s burned me out.
Imagine cooking dinner for yourself (for those of you who don’t cook, humor me). It’s easy — there’s not much to it. Now imagine if you had to cook for yourself and someone else. Slightly more trouble, but not enough to have a headache over. What about four people? What about six people then?
It’s the same with goals. The more goals that we set, the more effort we need to put in to accomplish the simpliest goal and eventually we burn out because we can’t keep up with the constant demand for attention.
Most of us want change; there’s nothing wrong with that or setting goals, but to actually achieve them, sometimes we need to step back and prioritize on the goals that matter most. It is a sacrifice; you will feel helpless knowing that you can’t improve and work towards all of your goals, but only by focusing first on what you’re capable of handling will you find success towards other less important goals. Choose your focus, accomplish your goals.
You can do anything. But not everything — David Allen