A lot of people come to me for advice. For a lot of different topics, but mostly things related to entrepreneurship and design.
Over the years, I’ve grown overconfident. I don’t know exactly when it happened, but I started giving advice even when nobody was asking for it. On topics I clearly know nothing about.
An example would be me at the gym. Anytime a friend works out without proper form, I make it a habit to stop whatever rep I’m on so I can correct his form. Without him asking.
It’s silly because who am I to tell him what the proper form is? Everything I’ve learned is self-taught or from youtube. I’m not even sure if my own form is correct.
Maybe the lesson here is not to give advice if people don’t ask for it. There’s nothing wrong with giving advice; it’s just that if it’s uncalled for, maybe it doesn’t make sense to. We can see it as that we’re either not sufficiently qualified to give advice, or that person isn’t genuinely interested in seeking any. In either case, is it worth your time to give advice?
In a way, this post itself is ironic — I’m still giving advice.
The people sensible enough to give good advice are usually sensible enough to give none. — Eden Phillpotts